Different people have different needs.
Everyone has a different financial number they need to make for their nervous system to chill the funk out.
Everyone has a different love language that they need to be spoken in to really feel loved and appreciated.
Everyone has a different balance of human connection vs alone time necessary to feel safe and soothed.
Everyone has a different kind of touch required to feel deeply pleasured intimately.
Everyone has a different identity to fulfill, path to walk, place to go, way of learning...
Trying to guess these things for others is a recipe for disaster, trigger and confusion.
Firstly know what they are for you so you can share them clearly and not be guessed upon.
Then ASK what others' needs are, so you stop guessing and get it right.
This is what the phrase "communication is EVERYTHING" is all about...